As a woman, and especially as a woman who battles a chronic illness, I have this overwhelming need to appear strong and appear like I have it together every day. I know that many of you can relate to this. A need to be strong for the people around you and a need to project this air of confidence, capability, and good health.
If you’re like me, you want to make sure that you make everyone else feel good. You check on them. You want everyone else to be okay. You don’t want your illness to affect the people around you, so you put on a charade. You say you feel fine even when you don’t. You go out and participate in activities even when you don’t really feel up to you it. You take care of everyone and everything even though you can barely take care of yourself and are barely holding everything together.
But we don’t have to be strong all the time. We don’t have to do everything ourselves. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to not be strong all the time. It is okay to be real with the people in your life and tell them that it’s not a good day if you’re feeling bad. Chronic illness is not something that we can just pretend doesn’t affect our lives and we shouldn’t have to.
Ask for help. Listen to your body. Be honest about how you are feeling. Rest when you need to. Take care of yourself. Put yourself first once in a while. Rely on the people in your life who love you and are willing to be there for you.
Remember it is okay not to be okay. It is okay to not be strong every single day. Remember this the next time you’re about to tell someone you are fine when you are really in pain.
Keep Kickin’ AS!
Gentle Hugs and Extra Spoons to You All.